Amazing Kegelmaster

Hi Ladies….. now I don’t want any rude remarks so please if you”re going to answer stick to my question and be nice. So I just found out I’m pregnant a few weeks ago, my husbands in the military and I wasn’t completely set up in tricare(my insurance) until just this morning and I won’t be seeing the ob for another week or so because all my paper work needs to go through. I wanted to know how I should address my concerns to the OB though.

For one, I am very very nervous about the delivery. I want to opt for a c-section, I know some of you may not agree with it and that’s fine, I don’t want your opinion if I should or shouldn’t get one, if the doctor sees fit that I can give birth naturally then so be it, I would be fine withit but right now I really wanan opt for a c-section. I have a few reasons, number 1, I have heard that labor pain is just like really bad cramps, the only thing with that is that when I am on my menstrual cycle and have cramps I faint everytime because the pain is so horrible to me, I get extremely confused on where I am, I faint, I wake up and my body just trembles in pain, and I can’t feel normal until I fall asleep and sometimes this lasts days. And I don’t wanna put myself through stress during the delivery and end up hurting the baby any way.

My second reasoning is I have heard that you can avoid urinary incontinence if you have a csection, all of my aunts and mom and 2 of my cousins that have all given birth vaginally all have it and suffer from it, I on the other hand, if I can avoid it would really really want too.

Also, my husband was an 11lb baby and I’m scared out of my wits that the baby is going to be 9lbs or more and I just wont be able to get it through me and they might end up doing a csection anyways. Also if it could what if I get severe tears.

I do have a couple other reasoning that I will talk to my doctor about because they are more personal but how do I bring it up to the doctor that this is something I am really considering. trust me I have done my fair share of research and I know the consequences of it I know it’s major surgery, I have heard it all, I just wanna know how I bring this up to my doctor and how I can tell her that this is something I am really concerned about??

Again, please no rude remarks. Thanks.

Tricare won’t fully cover an elective C-section so unless you all are planning to pay out of pocket then you won’t get one. I had a medically necessary one and was covered(husband is in military too), but check this out from their site:

"TRICARE covers cesarean sections when medically necessary. Following a cesarean section, the mother and child’s stay in the hospital must be at least 96 hours. TRICARE’s coverage of elective cesarean sections (those done at the request or convenience of the beneficiary) is limited to what would have been provided for a vaginal delivery, and the beneficiary will be responsible for any excess amount."

I’ll also add that both myself and my husband were 10 lb. babies but our son came out(at 39 weeks) weighing just over 7 lbs. so you cannot always count on genetics playing a big role in your baby’s size.

You can certainly bring all these concerns up with your doctor but, like I said, it really comes down to the insurance company and how much you’re willing to pay yourself(my total hospital stay was well over 17000)…